I asked my followers: What's holding you back from creating change and create the life you want to live?

And there were so many interesting answers: Money, Demands (from yourself or others), Motivation, Procrastination, Tiredness, Not realistic, Too much to do, Time, Netflix, the mind, eating right, ... I'm going to go into the specifics of these things, but I want to address the bigger picture first.
 
I get it, I've been there, and I recognise myself in most of your answers... And it is how we usually are thought to see the world; "If I could only have/do/be this, then I would do/feel this." And we get stuck in the lack mindset, victim mode, the feeling that something is missing in our lives and that we can't do anything about it.
 
What if I told you that you could choose what you want right now? And what if you are choosing what you're having/doing/being right now? That may seem a bit hard, but play with it for a while and be curios to where it can lead you. If you were...

As I write this, I am making the same trip, from Sweden to New Zealand, that I did 3 years ago with a big difference: Then I was moving away, and this time I am coming home. We have just been to visit the family in Sweden, and it has been wonderful.

In this post, I wanted to share some of the milestones, and what has happened during our first 3 years that we have lived in New Zealand.

We have lived the adventure of living somewhere completely new
I'm working with my passion to help others find the meanings of their lives
My business has taken off internationally
The kids have started school and learned english
We have been swiming in the ocean more times that I can count
We've had visits from our parents
We have been to two camping vacations around New Zealand
I've made a business trip to California
Found wonderful friends
Received my licence as a LifeSpider Coach
Started my own jewellery line
Been on the board of Raglan Chamber of Commerce
Structured life the way I want it

I also have...

broken my...

What if you’ve been sent here on earth with a specific mission? (or several missions) What if the only way you could carry out those missions and get a life that would get you closer to solve the mission, was to wipe your memory, so you didn’t remember anything?

I’ve been binge-watching Blindspot (Easter and tummy bug in the house). It’s a series where a woman wakes up naked in a bag on times square with no memories and tattoos all over her body which helps the FBI to solve a lot of cases. She’s getting flashbacks from her former life and !spoiler alert! Eventually realises that she has done this to herself to put herself in a position where she can carry out her mission.

I can’t help but drawing parallels from this series and our lives. Both are like a treasure hunt where we are finding clues in the past, from patterns and events that leads us to the missions who have here. The clues to our missions/ life purposes/ life intentions, or what you...

Self Coaching is a technique to lead yourself to success. Leading yourself means you are aware of your feelings, thoughts and behaviours. A conscious awareness about yourself means that you can quickly choose how to react and act in a situation.

Coaching is a qualified communication that helps you find the answer to the questions; Who are you? What do you want? How will you get there?

The reason that coaching has been so successful and why it delivers such high results is because when someone else asks you questions, it kick starts new thoughts within you and you find the answers that are true to you. Another reason that coaching works so well is that an external coach doesn’t put any values or judgments on who you are, what you want, what you have experienced in your life or what you feel and think. A coach asks questions because they are interested in knowing where you are right now to make a plan, so you as the client take steps forward. To be able to coach yourself you...

"How are you?" is a question we get quite often. How do you feel about that question? Do you answer? Do you answer "good" or do you answer truthfully? What would be a truthful answer for you? Why do we even ask the question when clearly so many do not want to hear the real answer? Because it is polite? Honestly though, how polite is it to ask a question that we don't want the answer to? What would happen if we only asked the question when we are prepared to hear the real answer and to see the other person where he or she is right now without judgement? What would happen if we actually took the question seriously when someone asked us and told them how it was?

It's mental health awareness week here in New Zealand and I think that one key to better mental health is to listen, communicate and connect. Listen to ourselves, our body, our inner voice and communicate our wants and needs. Connect with ourselves and the people around us. See us as the human beings we are and not some...

What kind of mum do you want to be?

“- When I become a mum, I will never bribe my kids with candy or food.” Yes, I actually did say this before I had kids. Bahahaha.

It is so easy to have an opinion about what we don’t know. Especially when it comes to parenthood or motherhood. That’s because we have all had some kind of experience of a  mother figure and we all have an opinion of what works and what doesn’t. Most of all, we know what we will do better than our parents, and what they did really well. It is not until we become parents ourselves that we really understand the struggles as a parent.

Sometimes I open my mouth and my mother comes out...

More than a couple of times I’ve heard my mum’s voice coming out of my mouth. Not literally, but when I am telling the kids something that my mum told me when I was young. Saying things that I haven’t really thought about. There is so much information on how to be a good mum, you...

Would you like more freedom?

I hear a lot of my clients wanting more freedom and I know I longed for it as well. But in reality, we are not imprisoned so the freedom is right here. Freedom is nothing that we need to reach or work for. Freedom is something we have already, we just have to realise it.

What is making you feel that you don’t have any freedom? You! Your thoughts, the feeling that you have to adjust or make yourself smaller. You put yourself in a box where you think you should be or where you think that other people want you. And the price you pay is your freedom. But do you know what? The freedom is right here and all you have to do, to have the freedom you want, is to claim it.

Today, the 6:th of June is the Swedish national day. Happy Birthday, Sweden!  
I thought I'd take the opportunity to share some of the differences I've observed between Sweden and New Zealand since we moved here almost two years ago. 

Let’s talk about the weather! 

Yes, both Swedes and Kiwis talk a lot about the weather, only in New Zealand we have, what we call April weather in Sweden, all year around. That is all: the four seasons weather on the same day. And longer summers, at least here in Raglan.

Seasons

The seasons change by the calendar here in New Zealand and in Sweden, it’s by the temperature. 

Opposites

- Sweden is on the opposite side of the globe. 

- When it's winter here it's summer there. 

- When it's night here, it's day there. The time difference is 10 hours now and when Sweden goes into wintertime and New Zealand goes into summertime there is a 12 hours time difference.

- We drive on the opposite side of...

What would happen if you were a bit more ego? Would you stop caring so much what other people were doing or thinking? Would you do your own thing? Would you follow what you thought was fun and that you had a talent for? Would you stop being envious of the people doing what you deep down really would like to fo but don't acknowledge to yourself? Would you take better care of yourself? Would you bring forward your gifts for others to enjoy?

I believe so! I believe that the world would be so much better if we all were a bit more egoistic, putting ourselves first. Doing what makes us happy because that's going to spread. Use your ego, use your driving forces. There is a lot of energy there and your tool here on earth. Are you scared to let some aspects out? That is because you haven't allowed it to come out in the right place. It hasn't been connected to your life intentions or your purpose. 

I think that the ego has, undeservingly, got a really bad reputation. We blame the ego...

Belief = a psychological state in which an individual holds a proposition or premise to be true

I find the word 'Believe' really interesting. Sometimes we get the impression that we have to know something to be true in order to believe them. But we can actually choose what we want to believe in and explore that. Right now I am choosing to explore what to believe in, just because it makes my life more interesting. What do you like to explore? What would make your life a bit more interesting if you believed in it?

Honestly, we do not have to take life so seriously, let’s play!

Hit reply and tell me what you would like to explore or believe in to make your life more interesting!

 
With Dreams, Love, and Adventure,

Frida Kabo

When nothing is certain, anything is possible