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What would happen if you were a bit more ego? Would you stop caring so much what other people were doing or thinking? Would you do your own thing? Would you follow what you thought was fun and that you had a talent for? Would you stop being envious of the people doing what you deep down really would like to fo but don't acknowledge to yourself? Would you take better care of yourself? Would you bring forward your gifts for others to enjoy?

I believe so! I believe that the world would be so much better if we all were a bit more egoistic, putting ourselves first. Doing what makes us happy because that's going to spread. Use your ego, use your driving forces. There is a lot of energy there and your tool here on earth. Are you scared to let some aspects out? That is because you haven't allowed it to come out in the right place. It hasn't been connected to your life intentions or your purpose. 

I think that the ego has, undeservingly, got a really bad reputation. We blame the ego...

The LifeSpider System is a system that educates you in Self Leadership and helps you find your way back to you. The model we work with looks like a spider and therefore the name. 

LifeSpider System™ is for you who are ready to evolve personally as well as contribute to the evolution of our world. It is for you who recognize that life has a higher purpose and are ready and willing to receive higher vibrations that will allow you to live your passion for life, as well as serve the development of others.

Your LifeSpider™ is your unique code with your driving forces, your life purposes linked to unique life projects. You are using your LifeSpider™ to create a partnership between your ego and soul and let them work as a team to realize your LifeProjects. Once you have identified your LifeSpider ™ you’re not longing to become someone else, you just want to become more of yourself to manifest your Life Projects.

Two of the legs are your support legs and...

Belief = a psychological state in which an individual holds a proposition or premise to be true

I find the word 'Believe' really interesting. Sometime we get the impression that we have to know something to be true in order to believe them. But we can actually choose what we want to believe in and explore that. Right now I am choosing to explore what to believe in, just because it makes my life more interesting. What do you like to explore? What would make your life a bit more interesting if you believed in it?

Honestly we do not have to take life so serious, let’s play!

One thing I am exploring right now is Reiki Healing. Wether it is the universal energy, the placebo effect or the knowledge that someone is focusing on you. I know that it works if you are open for it to work. If you want to try it out for yourself I am offering a 50% discount on my Reiki Heling Distance sessions during February. What is needed from you is that you find a comfy place where you can relax and a...

Today is the first day of the new school year for my boys here in Raglan. We’ve had a wonderful summer break and now it’s wonderful to have the kids back in school and get back to the routines. The brain likes routines and habits because it takes less energy than to do something new. Therefor it is important to look at our habits and routines so that they support us in the way we want to. 

Does your routines support you?

Now is the perfect time to think it trough. What is the first thing you do in the morning? Is that what you would like to do? How does it support you? Go trough your habits and routines and ask these questions to be more conscious about the support you have built or not built for yourself. 

 
What support would you like to have?

If you feel that you don’t have the routines to support you. Think about what support you would like to have. What do you want more of in your life?

Example of routines could be:

- Think a happy thought before...

What is depression or anxiety to you? Where is the line between normal and not normal? When is it time to get help?

The other week I looked at a very interesting documentary called ‘Sunny side of spirit’. It’s about the view on depression and mental “illness” in different countries. Coming from Sweden and living in New Zealand where both countries have a high rate of suicides and depression challenges, and also from my own experience with depression. This is really a subject that interest me. The documentary follows the Dutch woman Sunny to Accra in Ghana, Taipei in Taiwan and Salvador in Brazil. To see how the different countries view upon and handel depression compared to ‘the western world’. 

What strikes me is how hard we try to put everyone into the box of what is normal. I recognise it from my own upbringing and on the reactions of Sunny who leads the documentary. 

Five things that really resonated with me is: 

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What's on your mind?

Facebook ask us this every time we logg in, but have you really taken the time to think about it?

We have approximately 80,000 thoughts per day. Studies have shown that 95% of these thoughts are the same as those we had yesterday, and those that we will have tomorrow.  Imagine that, 95% of our thoughts are the same! Our brain is lazy it wants to do the same thing over and over again because it takes more energy to create new connections than to use the old ones. 

Our thoughts create our reality so what we think about is really important if we want to change something. To change the thoughts you need to become aware of them and consciously explore them. In this way you can discover thought patterns and connections that could be hard to discover otherwise. One way of doing this is by writing your thoughts down or having someone to help you see your thoughts, like a coach.

I do a writing process every morning and I would like to share it...

Happy new year! 

Hope you've had a great start on 2018 

Here in Raglan I’ve been to the beach ever day so far and I love it! More beach walks is on my list for 2018 and so far so good. What do you want from 2018? If you haven’t thought about it yet I will share 5 steps to create your fantastic year 2018! So grab you pen and paper or a new document on the computer, turn of Facebook and notifications and focus on these questions. Give yourself this time to really think about what you want from 2018. Put away other peoples expectations and believes about you. This is for you and about what you want, dream about, and feel good about. This is your year! Let’s start:

1. What do you want to keep in your life 2018?

Write down 5 things that you like in your life right now that you want to keep during 2018. It can be something you are, do or have, and it can be big or small. Like your perfect morning tea.

2. What don’t you want in your life...

The feeling of loneliness doesn't depend on how many people you have around you. If you've ever been in a room full of people and still felt lonely you know what I'm talking about. The feeling of being lonely is there because you have abandoned yourself. The feeling of being lonely is a disconnection. From you, the Now and/or the people around you. 

I have come to realize that I had become friends with the loneliness instead of becoming friend with myself. I have changed that now. But somedays my old friend the loneliness comes by and then I know what to do. And I want to share the steps with you here:

1. Investigate your loneliness

What does the feeling of loneliness want? Is it a protection, are you keeping your distance for a reason? Is it a sadness for not listening to yourself? Have you lost yourself in what you think others expect from you? Are you really alone? What is it that makes you feel alone? Has the loneliness become your friend?

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Why is it important to know what you really want?

You need to know what you want in order to get what you want. If you don’t know what you want, no one else will either and then they will guess and give you what they think that you need. And make you a part in their own plan. If you don’t decide someone else will do it for you

Take responsibility for you and take back the driving seat of your own life. You are to important to sit in the backseat. When you leave the responsibility to someone else you make yourself a victim. You can not expect someone else to see you potential if you don’t see it yourself.

Stop listening to the voice that tells you how you should be. You are you and that is enough. You are here for a reason and if you follow what feels interesting and important to you. You will find what it is and how you can use your talents and gifts that you have.

When you know what you want, start share this with others. Start with those...

What do you really want? My first coach was sitting in front of me asking me this question. I could not answer and I realised that I hadn’t thought of what I wanted for a long time. Life had just rushed on with it’s everyday schedule. The focus was on the kids, the family, the work, the house and everything else that needed fixing and planning. 

What did I really want?

One thing I knew was that I couldn’t go on like it was now. The energy was disappearing from me and I got very little energy back. One part of me wished for a quiet room with white walls and no demands. Another part of me demanded more and knew that life was suppose to be fun and wanted adventure. I knew that I had to find out what I wanted to get the energy I needed to cope. This was not a life I wanted for my kids, so I needed to find another way of living. 

Slowly I started to listen to the signs that lead me to what I wanted. The butterflies in my...